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I don’t have anything innovative to say.

You may find yourself in a similar position as me. A cool thing has ended and you are waiting around for the next cool bus to jump on. Maybe it’s a project. Maybe it’s a job. Maybe it’s a calling. Maybe it’s just a feeling that something is coming down the line. I may not have anything innovative to say But I do just want to remind you of three things if you are in a holding pattern.

  1. Do something. Twiddling your thumbs may be all the energy you can pull up after this last phase of your life ended but do something. Sometimes doing nothing is the best thing you can do but don’t let that dictate your everyday existence. Do what only you can do. Write, call, create, organize, research use some brain cells during this waiting time. Learn a little something new.
  2. Don’t go to pot. Literally or figuratively. Take care of yourself. If something has ended in your life then something is definitely about to happen. We are always in preparation for the next stage. Do you need to rest more? Sit on the patio and read a book? Hold a baby? Drink more water? Eat pizza with friends? Take a social media break? Actually exercise? Cut out the sugar? Meditate? Pray? I know for me, the last few weeks have been re-connecting with friends and family to build an anchor for my soul. It’s also been important to move into disciplined and consistent exercise.
  3. Don’t beat yourself up. We have created a vicious un-loving culture centered around DOING rather than BEING. Just as you never what to get Number 2 confused with Number 1 in bathroom life Don’t get number 3 on this list confused with number 1. We have fallen for this trap that if we are doing something then we must have value. It has to be something big. Something important. Something highly instagrammable. If a season of your life has ended that took up much of your identity it is easy to fall into a pit of despair when “That Thing” is over. I know for myself I have had those stupid self-pity sessions starting with “I don’t have anything to offer that anyone would want anyway.” Thus, one of many reasons I have picked up my blog again.

There really is a time for everything. Time for waiting. Time for healing. Time for grieving. Time for dreaming. Use this time that you have to gear up for the next BIG Important Deal in your life! Let me know what’s working or not working for you.


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9 Things I Tell My Daughter

One of My Reasons- My beautiful daughter Emma

All my children are amazing. No really. This is not just a mom thing. All 3 of My Reasons are incredibly distinct and unique beings. I’m fiercely proud of them and protective as well. We spend a lot of time talking about their thoughts, dreams, frustrations. About our expectations, reassurances, advice, beliefs, and faith. Here’s 9 things I tell my beautiful daughter as often as I can. 

1. Nothing is more important than God

 No boy, no catty words from other girls, no job, no event. Keep your gaze set on Him. Don’t get sucked into stupid conversations. Don’t get distracted by worldly gain. Don’t start looking at yourself so much you forget who you came from and what you were meant to do this side of heaven. Focus on God, put Him first. Everything else pans out the way it should. 

2. Ask the questions, find the answers. 

There is no stupid question. You may not end up with the same question you started with but at least you started forward in finding the answer. If you want to know it, it’s worth knowing. Ask about people, ask their thoughts and opinions, ask about events and why they happened, ask about things to come and how you can be apart of it. Ask God why, how, who, and what. That’s they only thing I want you to wait on, is His answer. 

3. Don’t wait.

They say you won’t study Vietnam War for another 2 years but you want to know about it now. Study it now. You want to be an entrepreneur when you grow up? Make the business plan now.  You see someone in need? Don’t wait until you have all the answers and resources. Act and act swiftly. Hear a song? Sing it. Hear a poem? Write it. Ship what you have today now. Perfect it along the way. Only thing to wait on is God. But be ready to move when He says “go.”

4. Be a chronic reader. And then write about what you read. 

Leaders are readers. Strong women have knowledge. Read everything. Especially your bible. Read even things that aren’t meant for you. Especially things that others have banned. Then write about it so you can store in a deeper part of your brain and soul. Just stop using the word “tooken.”

5. Dont apologize for being smart and pretty.

A lot of people say you can’t have it all. You do. You are beautiful and intelligent. Grace and confidence will carry you far. People will underestimate what you are capable of because they will be distracted by your heels and bling. Don’t say your sorry for who you are. 

6. Fight. Fight dirty if needed.

If you believe in it, if it is yours, if it is for the underdog, if it’s a good cause, if it’s life and death, if it’s to give someone else a voice. Fight. Don’t ever give up. Have courage, fight through the tears. Fight me and dad if we don’t listen or try to block something you know God has put in your heart. 

7. Give

Generously give away your money, your encouragement, your laughter, your tears. Share your ideas, thoughts, and opinions. Give your time and talents. Share your songs, gifts, and beauty. 

8. Take Care of What You’ve Been Given

Exercise every day, eat strong healthy food, eat dessert and chocolate, guard your heart, protect your innocence, know where you laid your phone, don’t lose your kids when you have them, love your husband with everything you have, personally track your finances, change the oil in your car, take the trash out, keep track of time. 

9. Purposefully look for joy

There is so much pain and sadness. Always look for the joke and sarcasm. Bring the giggles and snorts and laughter with you. Find the funny signs, and odd people, and goofy sayings. Laugh until your sides burst. 


What do you share with your daughter? What do you want to impress upon her? 

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Anybody pacing the floor with me? 3 Things To Do While Waiting

I’m waiting on a group to make a decision about something really, really important to me. I have no insight into their conversations. I have no knowledge of where they are in the process. I have no idea what kind of timeline we’re talking about. Waiting requires patience. Patience is not a virtue I am not known for. So waiting is just about ugly around me. Waiting is just about to kill me. I just want to speed up time. 

However, even though I can’t control these people and get an answer from them yesterday I’ve thought of 3 things I can do to pass the time. 







1. Prayer: I’m praying for myself to keep my eyes on God and not on the clock or calendar. These time pieces can become golden idols for me. I’m also praying for these people to be led by God and not swayed by man. I want to keep thinking of these people as blessings rather than blockades.

2. Prepare: Whatever these people’s decision, I need to be ready to move. There are plenty of things I can be doing in the meantime in preparation for their answer. I can’t control the outcome but I know what the answer is going to be , yes, no, or not now. I don’t need to standing around wringing my hands. I’ve got stuff to do while waiting.

3. Praise: Because I am a bit of a control freak parading as a mexican jumping bean, waiting can be an anxiety producing exercise for me if I allow it. I’ve learned that if I pump up the praise music, dance around, and praise God for what He’s already done and what He’s going to do after this time of waiting I limit the mind racing and the limitless “what if” questions. I turn the nervous energy over to God in the form of praise.

In addition to these 3 things I oscillate between extreme caffeine intake, shoe shopping, shoving my face with chocolate chips, twitter stalking, and tearing paper.

I’m guessing I’m not alone on the whole waiting game. How do you wait patiently or not so patiently